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When passion and Intimacy are lost in a relationship, it can be devastating. When I meet with couples struggling with Intimacy, it has often been months or years since they’ve had physical touch. To the outside world, everything may seem completely normal, but most of the time, I can see in their eyes that they truly want to connect again. The problem is they don’t know how to find that spark again. Because of this, I’ve brought in an intimate marriage expert, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell. For over two decades, she has been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life.

Main Points

The key to a fantastic relationship is each partner takes 100% responsibility for the success of the relationship.
It is important to evaluate your relationship and the feelings attached to it; doing so will help you and your partner find common ground to work towards a wonderful and intimate relationship.
Increasing Intimacy starts with learning to be kind and passionate with yourself.

Episode Moments/Quotes

[4:30] Dr. Stockwell shares her backstory

[19:43] Dr. Stockwell talks about bringing the erotic into everyday life

[27:19] “If you want to feel great, you have to be willing to feel” -Dr. Stockwell

[37:11] When the low desire partner is a woman it’s quite likely that she does not even know what’s possible in terms in how good it can feel” – Dr. Stockwell

Research On the Topic

The Family Institute of Northwestern University (2018) describes both physical and emotional benefits to physical touch; reduced levels of cortisol (the stress hormone), decreased heart rate and blood pressure, a sense of acceptance, and being cared for. They further explain that physical touch can become even more important in relationships that have little to no sex because physical touch leads to more Intimacy. Check out the link below for more information about this topic!

Want More?

Check out episode 57: Heal Relationship Disconnects w/Third Layer for more information on rebuilding relationships!

Mentioned during the show/resources:

Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/

The BS Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/