The BackStory Breakthrough Method™ Defined

Core Principles 

• Your narrative drives your life outcome; change your narrative and your life will change.
• Negative emotions are caused by what you reinforce in your brain, rewire how you process information and you will change how   you feel and behave.
• True change happens by believing first then doing, there is power in setting positive intentions.

 

The method works by helping you….

1) identify the thoughts and behaviors that are secretly sabotaging your success.
2) Learning concrete strategies to silence your inner critic, or what some call the little voice in your head.
3) Gain tools and new daily practices to ensure success.

Origin

The BackStory Method is infused with principles from three empirically proven theories of change; including positive psychology, narrative therapy, and cognitive therapy. Each systematic step in the method carefully implements principals from these core proven change theories.

What it is 

Your BackStory is all the past experiences and events in your life that left you feeling taken for granted, rejected, or not good enough. You convince yourself that you are over those experiences, but they find a way to creep in to how you think, behave, and live. 

Your BackStory eventually turns into a pattern of sabotaging behavior. These behaviors develop to keep you from getting hurt and being vulnerable. In most cases, you’re not even aware that they are controlling how you think and behave. This happens because of the way your brain process pain and trauma.

When someone or something triggers you to feel taken for granted, rejected, or not good enough in your present day life, your BackStory takes over.

 

 BackStories Predictable Pattern of Behavior 

 Fight or Flight Mode – When Flight mode is on you may walk away from relationships, challenges, and opportunities, convincing yourself that it will be too difficult. Fight mode is the mode of confrontation. When this behavior is present you will look for things to go wrong and instigate fights and arguments. Flight mode causes you to walk away or give up on people and situations.

 Isolating and Shutting Down – When this BackStory behavior is on you withdraw from people, places and things due to fear of failure or how you will be You may give someone you love the silent treatment for days at a time.

 Giving More Than You’re Getting – This particular BackStory behavior manifests in you giving of your time, energy, money and love to someone or something that may not deserve This behavior occurs in intimate relationships, friendships or even work relationships. The underlying belief is that you have to give to be loved. 

 Hiding Your Own or Other’s Bad Behavior – Hiding Bad behavior speaks to not seeing things for what they are, it comes in the form of making excuses for people who treat you badly or minimizing your bad behavior. Examples of this are making excuses for someone who steals from you or making excuses for why you are over eating, over shopping, or drinking too 

 Thinking Errors – This behavior is related to the way you think and process You approach situations from a limited perspective when this behavior is present you only see one option or solution to the problem. You develop an all or nothing mentality.